Holidays become an invasion with the most likes on Instagram. It all starts to stop everything we do, pull our phones and take dozens of photos from all possible angles. Then we spend another ten minutes thinking about an explanation. Should I go with words from Beyonce's new album or should I stick to the emoji? Now it is time for the candidate and God knows how long it will take.
An hour later, we put our phones down just to capture them again and check the number of likes we received last post. By then, the beautiful sunset that we should have watched was long gone and clouds of clouds flow.
We had the perfect moment but we didn't taste it because we felt the need to show it to others.
Most of us are social media users have a simple obsession with sharing everything; our lunch group, our dinner snap partners offer us, the view from the hotel rooms. We were all this person at some point in our life or we were sitting in front of one. He is frustrated like hell. Aren't we here to talk and catch up? So why do we ignore each other and press our phones instead?
Do our followers really care about where we are and the hashtags attached to it? Ask yourself this: Do you care about these things when you see them on your feed? Sure, some pictures are great but they don't make you think about them on a deeper level – after all, isn't that the purpose of the scroll feature?
We don't need Instagram to check our happiness; increasing likes isn't equal to increasing happiness levels. Sure, some people seem pervasive in their photos and their holidays seem to be something taken from fancy magazines, but are they as happy as they seem? Or have they entered into a huge debate with their families? Was the food good or was it too nice? These are the things that pictures don't convey to us.
Worst of all, our Instagram feed has become a battleground, an area of great competition. We are afraid of other people's images and feel the need to "raise our game". Sudden sense of insecurity begins to develop as we feel the need to check our happiness with others.
What we can do instead is feel comfortable with ourselves and develop a mindset that I know I am happy and I do not need anyone else to tell me who I am. We need to enjoy the moments of life you give us because the best of them come without any consideration and swell up in a worry-free situation. Why dedicate time to check Instagram every ten minutes when you can sip another margarita on the beach?
Now don't get me wrong. I love taking pictures and my summer destinations are no exception. They serve as reminders of the great times I've spent, especially on days when I'm stuck in the office. And yes, I am also guilty of uploading one or two photos while lying under the tropical sun. But I look forward to changing this last part.
Of course, this will not be an easy task, but I will take small steps to achieve this. Maybe I'll start waiting until the end of the day when I feel comfortable in my comfortable bed in the hotel to load something. One thing for sure though, is that I refuse to waste precious moments by feeling anxious about how I look to Instagram followers.
We do not need to tell people how happy we are nor need to feed their curiosity. We do not need to fulfill their expectations from us, because if there is anything, we should enjoy our holidays to ourselves.